We all are tired of asking and answering the questions based on WHY because the significance of WHY is enormous in our lives. Since childhood, we are used to asking things like Why we have to do this? Why it happens like that? Why I’m not allowed to go out? Why? Why ? and Why?.
Some of our greatest discoveries have come from asking “why.” All these are relevant, logical questions which can be answered specifically and elders say that we will learn them in time. Asking “why” can also lead to wonderful exchanges of conversation and points-of-view, which in-turn educate and stimulate the mind. And sometimes, asking why works miracles. Other times, in our personal life the same question when asked repeatedly, can make our lives in agony. In an attempt at digging up the past to understand why it happened, we make things gloomy. Life doesn’t always give us prudent answers. In fact, sometimes it is better to leave some questions unanswered.
Significance of Why
I’m not trying to make a note that asking why doesn’t make sense. Because it is the most important question to know to reduce the magnitude of the problem. For example, Why I got fewer marks in that examination ? or Why I couldn’t able to do that ?. By asking why we just get the information about the problem. But if we go beyond the why and ask how then we get the solution to that problem. I’m just trying to help you to think beyond why. So stay with me here and find out HOW it makes sense.
“He who has a WHY to live for, can bear almost any HOW.”
Start asking How.
Instead of asking why, why don’t we ask how the next time we are faced with a major problem? Ask, How can I enjoy my life? How can I spend more time with my family? How can I succeed? How can I do better in my next examination? Instantly the mental conditioning transforms from a weak, negative person into a courageous, confident one.
We keep wasting our energy, time, intellectual ability and even our peace of mind in asking why whereas if we ask how, we gain direction, strength, courage and the focus we need to progress. Here is an even better reason to ask how not why.
Why is Past, How is Future
There’s no rocket science behind the idea that too much of ‘Why‘ brings negativity. Think about it. This is always a question of “poor me.” Why does this always happen to me? When you do that too often, or for too long, you stay stuck in the past. And we get depressed if couldn’t able to find the answer.
When we ask how, on the other hand, we condition ourselves to start solving problems instead of just questioning them. We also start to see the positive side of life, because we realize that all things are possible. If you only ask why, though, not only are you stuck in the past, you are also endangering your future. We always think that the past only was more beautiful and never comes again, but ever thought the future would have been brighter? We need to free ourselves from the past to both live in the present and to also enjoy our future.
Life is a blender of so many different things already that it often puts us in different circumstances which can’t be reasoned out. Which means that if you spend your time asking why you’ll never find the results you seek. Questioning why cannot give answers to the problem. Instead, ask the question HOW which will give the answer and also the solution to that problem. It makes sense.
For a purposeful, blessed life, – ask how not why!
by Sri Harati 🙂