It’s been 3 years since we’ve moved to a new community in Vijayawada where the majority of residents are senior citizens, living their second innings in a peaceful locality but apart from their children. I haven’t seen any younger crowd around my age. At first, I thought life in this community will be boring. Therefore I didn’t let myself to be monotonous, and then I started introducing myself to some of the senior people. As time passed by we used to have small talks with each other and shared a lot of fascinating things. Later the new kid in the block became their granddaughter. At that moment I discerned that my life wasn’t tiresome anymore and I am surrounded by people who were truly packed with distinct experiences, with a different perspective on life.
In these years I’ve discovered that senior people have a thing or two to teach us about enduring change and handling life’s adversity. Even if a senior’s hearing or memory isn’t what it was in the past, our elders have great wisdom to impart. And I desired to share that wisdom with you people through my blog in any manner. So the idea of creating this authentic talk with senior people was originally from my elder brother.
The person I interviewed is Mr. Ram Mohan, 61 years old retired principal of high school living in our community. The reason why I’ve started these authentic talk with this person is being a principal himself he often shares a lot of things with me. I thought it will be more interesting if I interview him and share it with everyone. I prepared a few questions for him before I approached him. He was sitting on a bench enjoying his evening view in a park. I said I want to interview him if he had a moment, the very next reaction was he bust out of laughter. He did not expect I was going to interview him. later he agreed to an interview and this is how our conversation went, I started the first question with
# How was your life before the advent of digital era?
“Ahh!! Technology …..It’s very different. Back in those days, people used to stay in touch with each other. We would often go visit people at their homes rather than doing facetime/skype calls. We did believe in each other like a family. Family gatherings used to be fun. We used to work together to get the things done. We never even felt the need for modern technology. I believe the modern technology, mobile phone, computers are disconnecting people by the name of smart interfaces and progression. Modern technology is stealing time and moment from the people. It’s creating distances between people. I recommend the younger generation should stop relying on the technology and start developing interactive relations.”
# What is likely to be growing old?
“Well… I feel nobody should run behind life. People should learn how to take life easy and learn to be peaceful. Watch their children growing up and settled down. And if we grow old then we can play with grandchildren which provides more pleasure than anything. For me…It’s always great being around children because nothing makes me peaceful than being with them.”
# Where do you think the world is heading in the future?
As I asked this question he just shook his head and said, “ I don’t know and I dread to think that, I think people will end up like robots, mechanical and heartless. Wasting all their energy living other’s dream. People are cocooned up in their own world. They are failing to see what’s going around them. Mobile phones are locking up their life with them.”
#What are some of the most important lessons you’ve learned in your life?
He grinned, “ Well I taught lessons to kids and at the same time life taught me some lessons. Life doesn’t go as you planned sometimes it steers in another direction. The real pleasure in life is to accept it and move on. I always wanted to be a Doctor but my parents wanted me to become a teacher, now I’m a retired principal. But I never regret in life being a principal, because I found that the real pleasure in life is accepting it and moving on. No matter what it was I just wanted to be successful in my life and I just followed it. All in all, you should have no regrets in your life after you turned to my age. He winked at me while saying that.”
# Are there any regrets in your life?
“Probably not having spent more time with my parents but they weren’t here. And I hope my children won’t have the same regret.
Both were silent at this moment and to divert him I asked If he had participated in the freedom fight. He just smiled and said, “Naah!!… I wasn’t born yet”. I felt he was good now and I ended up with this last question.
# If you could give any advice to the younger people out there what would that be?
He smiled and said “ you guys don’t need advice right? ” I giggled and said we need one.
“Hmm…I always followed this line for my life that is
“Universe is the best teacher for you. Listen to it, learn and adapt as fast as you can”.
Life is too small than you think, so follow your dreams. Any dream can be achieved. You don’t have to be rich to be happy, do what you like. And always remember that you are always unique and there is no one like you before and never will be again, never mind what other’s think. Just do it what you dreamt to be. Have a great future.”
My Final thoughts :
Our generation is fortuned enough to live lives in this technology era. For real, we are being dependent on it. There are a lot of other things which technology won’t teach us but elder people do. As I said they are really filled with genuine experiences and equitable opinions. So this conversation was solely from the person in my place and I hope there are many other elder people around you. Talk to them and have a good conversation with them. I used to do it more often and now I miss these fascinating conversation with my grandfather. So it’s never too late to talk to them- you may get the best piece of advice for your life.
P.S – I’m destined to interview more people and I’ll be posting it later. So stay tuned!!
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